It is Christmas time in the USA. People are feeling good about the holiday season. Kindness is flowing through every aspect of society. The shopping malls and online stores are raking in big money from gift purchases. This time of year is the closest the USA ever comes to being a peaceful place. I will add to the gift giving. Citizens of the US, I offer you the gift of peace of mind. Who said I wasn’t benevolent?
Peace of mind is the one gift that can change a person’s existence. Many people claim to have peace of mind, but still grind their teeth while sleeping. The peace of mind I am giving to anyone who reads this dissertation is one of true mental bliss. The peace that can place a smile on a face in adverse conditions. The peace of mind that will allow a person to disengage from the madness that has become US society.
Peace of mind is easily attained if one will simply allow others to be, and do, who they are. This sounds easy, but take it from one who knows, the judgment habit is hard to break. US society programs people to look at other people and draw a conclusion. The factors that lead to this conclusion are usually ones set up by society. Stop doing this immediately. If one can stop judging other people’s actions, looks, whatever, this person’s life will be much more peaceful. How many times have you looked at someone and come to a snap judgment about the person? How many times was this snap judgment incorrect? Worse, how many times did this snap judgment make you start thinking negative thoughts? The latter is the worst situation you can be in. You have allowed judgment to disrupt your thoughts and now your peaceful mindset has evaporated. Give up judgement of others and start enjoying peace.
Once you give up judging others you will automatically stop nosing into other people’s business. I can hear the readers saying, “I’m not nosy.” Hint: if you are on social media you are nosy. If you read the news about what famous people are doing, you are nosy. Do you really care about what someone else is eating for dinner? Is your life so pathetic that you have to be in Instagram living through another person’s life? This also means, keep your business to yourself. Posting everything about your trials and diet is disrupting your peace of mind. Why? Many people who do this are looking to gain acceptance or approval from others. What happens when no one gives your posts their stamp of approval? How will someone critiquing your actions affect your mental peace? Exactly, wonderful people. Stay out of others’ business and keep yours to yourself and enjoy the gift of mental peace I offer.
Many people do not know who they are because they spend so much time with a chaotic mind from judging and being nosy. Do not be afraid to tell someone, “I don’t even want to have an opinion on that.” Or, “That has nothing to do with me. I am working on getting myself/ mind right.” Try using the previous sentences when someone comes up to you with juicy gossip or their problems. In order to grasp peace of mind you have to stop listening to other people’s problems. If you listen to other people’s issues they become your own. How many times has someone come to you with a problem and after they were gone you were still thinking of it? Yep, it’s almost funny when you see how negative mental contagion is spread.
Enjoy the gift of mental peace I offer. If you grasp it you will never be bored because you will be enjoying the only person whose life matters, your own.
Frank James IV © 2022
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